If today is any indication of what the new year will be, it must be a great one! What a wonderful way to start out the year for me. I realize that not everyone is starting out the year with happiness and good things going on, but I sure did need the jump-start I got today.
First of all, we had a later church, so I didn't have to get up at my usual waking time to be to church by 9:00. I actually slept until about 7:30, when just did not much until time to get ready for church. We always leave for church about one-half hour before it is time for the meeting to start, at least that is our goal. I am usually at the organ and I like to be playing before people start coming into the chapel. And Garth has the calling to be an usher so he likes to be at his post early, so 10:30 was the time we wanted to go out the door. At almost 10:00 I was in the process of getting the final touches on myself when I realized we should have been listening to The Spoken Word while we were getting ready. I quickly turned on the TV and listened to the last song. Then we just kept watching as the next show came on. It was a new show to us, since we have been in church by this time during the past year. It is called Mormon Times and is hosted by Michelle King. She had a guest author on who was speaking about her book. I was sold on it as soon as she started to speak. It is called "Live Life...and See Good Days". She told that in her book she has 12 ways to see the good in every day, but today she focused on just three. She was full of scriptures that helped her make her points. Oh, to know the scriptures like she must! (I ended up finding the book at Deseret Book and got an ebook copy for less than $10.00! Can't wait to read it!)
Point #1 - Rise above what you are asked to do. I didn't get the scripture for this reference, but she talked about how the Lord will help us overcome any obstacle we are met with.
Point #2 - Let your heart have great experiences - Sometimes we have to allow our hearts to feel and experience the good in things.
Point #3 - List what you love - Alma did so in his writing, even though he went through many trials. In Alma 26:37 he is listing what good things he had, and how much joy he experienced, even through his trials. Ester spoke of her days of gladness. She showed her Grandmother's Happiness journal, where she wrote the things that made her happy. What a keepsake to have.
The show then went on to other things, but I went into the kitchen and looked through the latest Ensign. I read the article on page 17 from Bro. Todd Christofferson, about how we need to keep close to the Lord every day so we can get the blessing He has for us. He told how the people of Israel relied on the Lord giving them manna for their food each day. It took them 40 years to learn that the Lord will keep his promise of manna, of food enough for their substance, to learn that they can rely on the Lord in all things. He stressed that we also need to learn this lesson, that we can count on Him to give us the blessings we need when we learn to rely on Him and learn to go to Him with our needs. This just really struck me and gave me lots to think about.
We saw a really nice video on the writing of the Book of Mormon in Sunday. It was a seminary video, but helped me remember that the plates of gold are abridgements of larger plates, and who wrote each part of the Book of Mormon. I liked it and hope we can see more. It's been a long time since I have been to Seminary, and I know we didn't have fun videos like that! More like film strips!
Then, the frosting on the cake, came at Relief Society. I think it was meant just for me. Our Relief Society president said she was inspired to have her sister-in-law speak to us. I had noticed that most of the Law family was here visiting and was excited to get a hug from Janice Law, Dallin's wife. They always sit in front of us, and they are always kind to us and acknowledge us every time they visit. They know how special Bro. and Sister Law have been to our family. So when I heard she was giving the lesson I knew it would be special.
Janice spoke about trials she has had to overcome in her life and how her trials have helped her turn to Christ. Her main thought was spoken many times:
Whatever you focus on expands.
Truer words can not be spoken! She stressed that we should be careful what we think about because it will consume our thoughts and grow out of porportion to reality. You can find proof for what you look for. If you feel you have been slighted or mistreated and that is your focus, you will find all the proof you need to convince yourself, and others, that you are right. She told of a time when she felt down about things others had done, and she went to the Lord to find out what to do. Her answer was to "bury your weapons' or the things you use to hurt others or to keep your pain going. Just as the Book of Mormon people were told to bury their weapons so they wouldn't fight any more. She quoted Ezekiel 36:26-27 where the Lord tells us that He will give us a new heart, a new spirit. We need to pray to get that spirit and heart so that we don't feel the pain from others, and before we spread the pain on to others.
She stressed that putting our focus on Christ will help us overcome any negative thoughts we might have, whether they are about ourselves, or our lot in life. If we have difficult appointments we need to go to, if we focus on how the Lord can (and will) help us, we will see that the time will go much better. If we focus on how difficult it is, we will see that it is difficult. We need to put our focus on how He will help us, not how He tries us.
She gave us several pointers on how we can focus on Christ. #1 - Choose a street that you drive on every day, and decide that while you are on that street, or block, or area, that you will think about Christ. #2 - Think about Christ as you fall asleep, thinking of stories or scriptures about Him, or ways you felt close to Him that day. #3 - Tell yourself that you will think about Him at certain times of the day (doing dishes, or combing hair) and make it a habit. Moroni 7:33 If you have faith in Him, He will give you power.
She told how she was very hurt by something someone said, and how she wanted to call her mom, or her sister, or someone and tell how hurt she was. Then she decided to kneel and pray about her hurt, realizing that if you focus on anger it will get bigger, but if you focus on Christ and think of the other person also at the feet of Christ asking for forgiveness, it makes it a little easier to calm those hurtful thoughts. After Mormon had seen the terrible state of his people and the horrible things they were doing, he still wanted his son, Moroni, to remember how the Lord can lift you up. Moroni 9:25. If we are faithful to Christ, He will lift us upward. Another scripture she used was D&C6:36-37. Look unto Him in every thought, doubt not, fear not.
I really was impressed with the quote "Whatever you focus on Expands". I see that in so many parts of my life, and those around me. Some of those thoughts can consume us, while others help us to grow. No matter what situation we are in, we can look for good, and focus on good. Especially focus on how the Lord can help us. There is reason for everything, and He will help us find the lesson in all our situations. We just need to focus on Him.
Sunday, January 1, 2012
Friday, December 30, 2011
Maxwell had a Birthday!
With all the excitement of the week I had a difficult time remember which day it was. That always happens when I am out of school. (No schedule, no day!) But yesterday was a very important day for us. It was the birthday of Maxwell. He is a big 6 years old now. I can't believe that he is so big. He goes to kindergarten and is growing so much. He loves life and is always laughing, although his mom and dad say that he is sometimes a stinker. (I really don't believe them at all ;) He is a special boy in our family and we love him very much. Happy Birthday, Max!
Thursday, December 29, 2011
Wonderful Holiday
We are un-winding after a great holiday week. We traveled a lot, visited a lot, traveled some more, ate lots of good food, traveled some more, played with grandchildren, and traveled home. I'm not sure how many miles we put on that new car of ours, but we are thankful we had the new car and didn't have to worry about the transmission acting up on the old car. We were thankful we could just climb in and drive and not worry. Oh, and have a warm car before we got in. It was a great blessing.
We left home on Friday morning and spent the next three nights in Salt Lake. Tammy and Nicky are sharing a house so there was plenty of room for Grandma and Grandpa, or Mom and Dad, whichever way you look at it. Tammy and Josh were so gracious to have a big dinner for us on Saturday night (I think that was what day it was!). Grandpa and the boys had a sleep over in the living room on Friday night, with Lexi spending some of the night with them. Grandma (me :) slept downstairs at Nicky's place, but moved over when Grandpa came down early in the morning with a backache from the blow-up bed. I had opted for sleeping on the couch that night, which was very comfortable. We spent Saturday playing with the kids while I hurried to finish up the Christmas present for Garth. He has been asking for an afghan with a pocket in the bottom for his feet for several years, so this year that is what he got. I had to design it myself, and I'm not sure I really like the way it turned out, but that is what he wanted.
Saturday night we watched as the kids opened their gifts from us. They were so excited for their new pajamas. We then helped them get to bed and zonked out ourselves. We were up bright and early the next morning, but had to wait for the kids to wake up. With the exception of Kayden, who we had to quickly hustle downstairs before he torn open all his toys. He was a sneaker and went out into the living room to check it all out before waking up the others.
We hurried down to Lehi to watch Tyler and Grayson open a few gifts. Tyler was so fun to watch, and Grayson didn't understand all the fuss.
We returned to Tammy's and went to their church for Sunday Sacrament meeting. It was a nice program of music. I have to admit that it was easy for me to rest my head on the wall and fall asleep for a few minutes. Oh, well. I didn't have to play any of the music!
After Sacrament meeting we drove to Logan to take our gifts up to them. They were home from their church meetings and having a relaxing time. (as much as you can relax on Christmas). We played with their toys, and put together Lego stuff. We got as many kisses from Isaac as we could get, hugs from both Morgan and Maxwell, then we took off back to Salt Lake.
Monday afternoon we loaded up our stuff, added a few things of Nicky's, and traveled back to Logan where we spent the next two night. On Tuesday morning we attended the temple with Barrett and Chantel, along with their children, to witness the sealing of Isaac to their family. It was a wonderful event! It was great to see Morgan and Maxwell sitting with their parents on the beautiful settee (is that what it is called or is it just a couch?) Morgan was so pretty in her white crocheted dress, if I do say so myself (Yes, I made it!) I am waiting for her mom to post a picture so I can post it here. Max was so excited about his tie that matched his dad's. And Isaac, what can we say except that he was all smiles and slobbers, which is his trade-mark! He was so happy, as always! It was a beautiful sealing, so quick and to the point. But a priesthood ordinance that is necessary for him to join their forever family.
It was also a great time for Garth and I to have so many of our children in the temple with us. We were missing two very special people, but we know that some day they will be there with us. We pray for that blessing every night and know that some day it will happen. Until then, we will just do what we need to do to be able to be worthy ourselves.
After the temple sealing we all met at their home where Isaac was officially given a name and blessing by his father with all the priesthood brethern there in the circle. Because Isaac was so big and squirmy, Chantel was able to sit in the middle of the circle and hold him. It was a beautiful site. Afterwards, we ate lots of great food and visited with family and friends.
Nicky went home with Tammy and her children, and we spent the night resting because Wednesday morning we were back to the temple for another family wedding. Our niece was married in the exact same room we had been in the day before! I love that room because of the beautiful green altar, the green carpeting, and the green walls. Such a beautiful soft shade of green. Traci was beautiful in her wedding dress and she looked so happy. I'm sure it was a great day for Mary and Cleve to have all their children in the temple together.
We enjoyed the wedding dinner afterward where we were able to visit with family and friends. It was nice to sit at the table large enough for all of the family (minus Mary and Cleve) so we could visit and catch up on every ones families. All-in-all, it was a great day.
We are now back home and wondering when we get to vacation, or rest from our holiday break. I guess the next few days will be our rest time.
I look at the things I need to accomplish this next year and I am already tired. I am finishing up a baby blanket I started last week (for a niece), learned that another niece is having a first baby so I need to do another one. There is also another wedding in February that I must get an afghan done for. And some Christmas stockings to do. I think my hands will be busy the next 12 months. I think I will love it!
I am so thankful for all the wonderful things that have happened this past month. I am hoping for many more in the months to come.
We left home on Friday morning and spent the next three nights in Salt Lake. Tammy and Nicky are sharing a house so there was plenty of room for Grandma and Grandpa, or Mom and Dad, whichever way you look at it. Tammy and Josh were so gracious to have a big dinner for us on Saturday night (I think that was what day it was!). Grandpa and the boys had a sleep over in the living room on Friday night, with Lexi spending some of the night with them. Grandma (me :) slept downstairs at Nicky's place, but moved over when Grandpa came down early in the morning with a backache from the blow-up bed. I had opted for sleeping on the couch that night, which was very comfortable. We spent Saturday playing with the kids while I hurried to finish up the Christmas present for Garth. He has been asking for an afghan with a pocket in the bottom for his feet for several years, so this year that is what he got. I had to design it myself, and I'm not sure I really like the way it turned out, but that is what he wanted.
Saturday night we watched as the kids opened their gifts from us. They were so excited for their new pajamas. We then helped them get to bed and zonked out ourselves. We were up bright and early the next morning, but had to wait for the kids to wake up. With the exception of Kayden, who we had to quickly hustle downstairs before he torn open all his toys. He was a sneaker and went out into the living room to check it all out before waking up the others.
We hurried down to Lehi to watch Tyler and Grayson open a few gifts. Tyler was so fun to watch, and Grayson didn't understand all the fuss.
We returned to Tammy's and went to their church for Sunday Sacrament meeting. It was a nice program of music. I have to admit that it was easy for me to rest my head on the wall and fall asleep for a few minutes. Oh, well. I didn't have to play any of the music!
After Sacrament meeting we drove to Logan to take our gifts up to them. They were home from their church meetings and having a relaxing time. (as much as you can relax on Christmas). We played with their toys, and put together Lego stuff. We got as many kisses from Isaac as we could get, hugs from both Morgan and Maxwell, then we took off back to Salt Lake.
Monday afternoon we loaded up our stuff, added a few things of Nicky's, and traveled back to Logan where we spent the next two night. On Tuesday morning we attended the temple with Barrett and Chantel, along with their children, to witness the sealing of Isaac to their family. It was a wonderful event! It was great to see Morgan and Maxwell sitting with their parents on the beautiful settee (is that what it is called or is it just a couch?) Morgan was so pretty in her white crocheted dress, if I do say so myself (Yes, I made it!) I am waiting for her mom to post a picture so I can post it here. Max was so excited about his tie that matched his dad's. And Isaac, what can we say except that he was all smiles and slobbers, which is his trade-mark! He was so happy, as always! It was a beautiful sealing, so quick and to the point. But a priesthood ordinance that is necessary for him to join their forever family.
It was also a great time for Garth and I to have so many of our children in the temple with us. We were missing two very special people, but we know that some day they will be there with us. We pray for that blessing every night and know that some day it will happen. Until then, we will just do what we need to do to be able to be worthy ourselves.
After the temple sealing we all met at their home where Isaac was officially given a name and blessing by his father with all the priesthood brethern there in the circle. Because Isaac was so big and squirmy, Chantel was able to sit in the middle of the circle and hold him. It was a beautiful site. Afterwards, we ate lots of great food and visited with family and friends.
Nicky went home with Tammy and her children, and we spent the night resting because Wednesday morning we were back to the temple for another family wedding. Our niece was married in the exact same room we had been in the day before! I love that room because of the beautiful green altar, the green carpeting, and the green walls. Such a beautiful soft shade of green. Traci was beautiful in her wedding dress and she looked so happy. I'm sure it was a great day for Mary and Cleve to have all their children in the temple together.
We enjoyed the wedding dinner afterward where we were able to visit with family and friends. It was nice to sit at the table large enough for all of the family (minus Mary and Cleve) so we could visit and catch up on every ones families. All-in-all, it was a great day.
We are now back home and wondering when we get to vacation, or rest from our holiday break. I guess the next few days will be our rest time.
I look at the things I need to accomplish this next year and I am already tired. I am finishing up a baby blanket I started last week (for a niece), learned that another niece is having a first baby so I need to do another one. There is also another wedding in February that I must get an afghan done for. And some Christmas stockings to do. I think my hands will be busy the next 12 months. I think I will love it!
I am so thankful for all the wonderful things that have happened this past month. I am hoping for many more in the months to come.
Sunday, November 13, 2011
Just Some Random Thoughts
Garth told me it is time for an update, so since I love him and do EVERYTHING he tells me to do, I will write something.
Our life has just been filled with daily things. Since our fun weekend with our family we have gone through many different emotions and experiences. We didn't come home to Orangeville after the fun weekend in Salt Lake. After the time at This is The Place Park, we spent another night in Salt Lake, then headed to Logan to attend our grandchildren's Primary Program. Of course, it was great because they were wonderful. :) We stayed there for a few more days because Barrett was going in for surgery that you can read about here on his wife's blog. We are happy to say that the many prayers and people fasting have helped us see a miracle of health. As far as we know, things are going well for him.
We also had a great time with Barrett, Chantel, and the kids here for a weekend. We so appreciate the time they have spent with us, and so thankful for them for helping us in so many ways. We can't thank them enough. They are working with all our children to help us do some of the things we have not been able to do here in our home. We are humbled by the ways our kids are helping us, and we so appreciate it. We love you all and pray for all of you to be blessed with those blessing that are waiting for you.
Today, we went to stake conference, which seemed really strange because we just had stake conference last month. I'm sure there hasn't been another time when we have met as a stake twice within 2 months. The meetings this week were very good. Last night we listened to a therapist who works with people with addictions, specifically addiction to pornography. She didn't talk about how to over the addiction, but how to help our loved ones and how we can help others who might be suffering from any addition. Some of my notes say:
Kathy Kinghort:
*When people run from emotions, they run to something to replace the emotion. So if they are running from caring, they replace it with something else.
*We need to face our emotions, call them what they are, and work through them.
*We need to share feelings, especially those that are uncomfortable to talk about. If we have feelings 'against' a person, especially someone in our family, we must confront the feeling and talk it out with the person. And an email or facebook message isn't that way to do it. It just be a phone call or face-to-face talking. But it shouldn't be confrontational, either, but done in love because family is most important. It must be done in a loving way, with everyone looking for a solution and working together.
*Don't deny or put the blame on someone else.
*Do not be deceptive. Be honest. Figure out what emotion you are reacting to, name the emotion, and you can have power over it. She told a story about how she was traveling to Idaho to present at a group of people. She wanted to take the 'sporty' car but her husband said she would get a ticket. Se assured him she would drive carefully, but sure enough, she did. Her immediate thought was "I won't tell my husband." Then she immediately wondered where that deception came from. She decided it was pride. Her pride was hurt because he was right, she did get a ticket and was mad that he was right. She could have paid the fine without him even knowing it, but that would not have been honest. She called him up and told him right first thing, that she had gotten a ticket, she would pay it, and she didn't want to talk about it any more. There was no need to discuss it any more, she had faced it, knew it was wrong, told him, then it was time to drop it. It wouldn't do him any good to laugh at her, get angry at her, anything. It was over, she knew how he felt, he knew she was honest with him. That is the way relationships should be.
*If we are doing things we don't want our spouse to see, (gaming, playing, looking, spending time visiting with someone we shouldn't, etc) we need to be honest with ourself and do what we need to do right at that moment to stop it.
*How do we react to our emotions? What do the scriptures show us? All through the scriptures there are example of how people have reacted to the same emotions we feel today. Like others, we need to stop, and walk away from evil things. Like Nephi, we need to confront our loved ones and tell them what they know they should be doing. Learn to look to the scriptures to find our answers.
*When clients come to her, she explains that they cannot get over an addiction in a day, week, or month. But they can think, "What do I have to do to stop today?" Take each day as it comes, and stop for that day.
*Get on your knees, ask for help. Don't get on your feet and run away, drop to your knees and ask for help.
*Do not isolate yourself. Even adults, no matter what the circumstances. Adults think they can keep computers in a place where no noise from the family bothers them, but no matter what, the computer needs to be in the open where everyone can see.
*Start talking about feelings. Ask each other "How did you feel today?" What made you upset? What made you happy? Don't just ask about how school or work was. Get our children talking about feelings, and seeing how adults work through their feelings. Everyone has times they are sad, but what do they do about it? How can we help each other?
*She suggested looking at "salifeline" if we need more help
She said so many things that were good suggestions. I just couldn't get all of them down.
We then heard from Sis. Slack, an assistant matron from the Manti Temple. She spoke of blessings we can get from temple attendance.
*She suggested we read Elder Asay's comments in the 1997 Ensign, as well as Oct. 2010, page 75.
*We are promised our loved ones will be watched over when we attend the temple. I remember this from the time we had small children. That was a great comfort to us when we traveled to the temple.
*Families will be closer to each other. Another great promise.
*The veil will be thin.
President Slack - There should be a picture of the temple in every one's room.
*The atonement didn't just happen in the garden, but on the cross, and in the tomb.
He made us feel better about our travel to Manti. He said it is very difficult to get over that mountain. In fact, he and his wife would be traveling to Salina to get home to Mt. Pleasant because of the storm over the mountain. He admitted our travel is very difficult, but the Lord recognizes it is so.
President Sharp - I always love to listen to him. Although the spirit was very strong, as soon as he stood up to talk there wasn't a sound in the place. It was like the spirit doubled. All the members of our stake know he loves us so much and always has so much to tell us. His message was that we need to allow others to repent.
*We must have faith unto repentance, and love unto forgiveness.
*We must begin where we are, but we don't need to stay there.
*It is our duty to love unto forgiveness.
This morning we listened to a broadcast from Salt Lake, with Tad Callister conducting. Here are my notes:
*The advisary attacks the home - He isn't at church, but in our homes. Don't let him win over our homes.
*Kids need parents who love and teach the gospel.
*Quorums should teach how to teach our children, how to be good parents, and good spouses.
*Don't assume that others know - teach the duties of parents.
*Live so you have the spirit of the Lord with you.
Jean Stevens - General Primary Presidency
*There is no other alternative - work together.
*Think of it as the "I" principal. How can "I" be better? Ask your spouse, How can I be better?
*Communicate with a contrite spirit.
*Blame doesn't change - patience, willingness helps.
*No good in winning an argument and losing a marriage.
*Make each other happy.
*Our spouse needs our time. Give it to them.
*Courtship after marriage. But it can happen in the home, not always away from home.
*A husband's willingness to help with household chores shows love.
He really stressed how a husband MUST help out. It is no more HER duty. The home belongs to both.
*Stay out of debt - unnecessary debt to get ahead.
*Speak in kind voices - strengthen the relationship
*Compliment each other.
*Make parenting a joint effort.
*Plan together - family home evenings, schedules for the week, etc.
*Pray together...pray together...pray together
*The Lord can work miracles in our marriages. He wants to be our partner. He wants our marriages to work and WILL help us.
Russell M Nelson - Quorum of the Twelve Apostles
*Satan never sleeps. He works at us all the time.
*Consequences - we obey laws because we should. We will be held accountable for obeying God's laws.
*Secret chambers - shun pornography - it is as addictive as meth.
*We should stand for the right to declare our love of Christ.
*If we are on the Lord's side He will be on our side. He will help our children and our children's children. -----I'm going to hold him to this promise! By making sure I am doing what I need to do to show the Lord I am on his side. That is the clue...We have to show that we are on His side.
*We must work to show our worthiness.
As usual, we came away from conference with a stronger determination to do better, work together better, to show the Lord that we want to be worthy of the blessing and promises He was ready for us.
Our life has just been filled with daily things. Since our fun weekend with our family we have gone through many different emotions and experiences. We didn't come home to Orangeville after the fun weekend in Salt Lake. After the time at This is The Place Park, we spent another night in Salt Lake, then headed to Logan to attend our grandchildren's Primary Program. Of course, it was great because they were wonderful. :) We stayed there for a few more days because Barrett was going in for surgery that you can read about here on his wife's blog. We are happy to say that the many prayers and people fasting have helped us see a miracle of health. As far as we know, things are going well for him.
We also had a great time with Barrett, Chantel, and the kids here for a weekend. We so appreciate the time they have spent with us, and so thankful for them for helping us in so many ways. We can't thank them enough. They are working with all our children to help us do some of the things we have not been able to do here in our home. We are humbled by the ways our kids are helping us, and we so appreciate it. We love you all and pray for all of you to be blessed with those blessing that are waiting for you.
Today, we went to stake conference, which seemed really strange because we just had stake conference last month. I'm sure there hasn't been another time when we have met as a stake twice within 2 months. The meetings this week were very good. Last night we listened to a therapist who works with people with addictions, specifically addiction to pornography. She didn't talk about how to over the addiction, but how to help our loved ones and how we can help others who might be suffering from any addition. Some of my notes say:
Kathy Kinghort:
*When people run from emotions, they run to something to replace the emotion. So if they are running from caring, they replace it with something else.
*We need to face our emotions, call them what they are, and work through them.
*We need to share feelings, especially those that are uncomfortable to talk about. If we have feelings 'against' a person, especially someone in our family, we must confront the feeling and talk it out with the person. And an email or facebook message isn't that way to do it. It just be a phone call or face-to-face talking. But it shouldn't be confrontational, either, but done in love because family is most important. It must be done in a loving way, with everyone looking for a solution and working together.
*Don't deny or put the blame on someone else.
*Do not be deceptive. Be honest. Figure out what emotion you are reacting to, name the emotion, and you can have power over it. She told a story about how she was traveling to Idaho to present at a group of people. She wanted to take the 'sporty' car but her husband said she would get a ticket. Se assured him she would drive carefully, but sure enough, she did. Her immediate thought was "I won't tell my husband." Then she immediately wondered where that deception came from. She decided it was pride. Her pride was hurt because he was right, she did get a ticket and was mad that he was right. She could have paid the fine without him even knowing it, but that would not have been honest. She called him up and told him right first thing, that she had gotten a ticket, she would pay it, and she didn't want to talk about it any more. There was no need to discuss it any more, she had faced it, knew it was wrong, told him, then it was time to drop it. It wouldn't do him any good to laugh at her, get angry at her, anything. It was over, she knew how he felt, he knew she was honest with him. That is the way relationships should be.
*If we are doing things we don't want our spouse to see, (gaming, playing, looking, spending time visiting with someone we shouldn't, etc) we need to be honest with ourself and do what we need to do right at that moment to stop it.
*How do we react to our emotions? What do the scriptures show us? All through the scriptures there are example of how people have reacted to the same emotions we feel today. Like others, we need to stop, and walk away from evil things. Like Nephi, we need to confront our loved ones and tell them what they know they should be doing. Learn to look to the scriptures to find our answers.
*When clients come to her, she explains that they cannot get over an addiction in a day, week, or month. But they can think, "What do I have to do to stop today?" Take each day as it comes, and stop for that day.
*Get on your knees, ask for help. Don't get on your feet and run away, drop to your knees and ask for help.
*Do not isolate yourself. Even adults, no matter what the circumstances. Adults think they can keep computers in a place where no noise from the family bothers them, but no matter what, the computer needs to be in the open where everyone can see.
*Start talking about feelings. Ask each other "How did you feel today?" What made you upset? What made you happy? Don't just ask about how school or work was. Get our children talking about feelings, and seeing how adults work through their feelings. Everyone has times they are sad, but what do they do about it? How can we help each other?
*She suggested looking at "salifeline" if we need more help
She said so many things that were good suggestions. I just couldn't get all of them down.
We then heard from Sis. Slack, an assistant matron from the Manti Temple. She spoke of blessings we can get from temple attendance.
*She suggested we read Elder Asay's comments in the 1997 Ensign, as well as Oct. 2010, page 75.
*We are promised our loved ones will be watched over when we attend the temple. I remember this from the time we had small children. That was a great comfort to us when we traveled to the temple.
*Families will be closer to each other. Another great promise.
*The veil will be thin.
President Slack - There should be a picture of the temple in every one's room.
*The atonement didn't just happen in the garden, but on the cross, and in the tomb.
He made us feel better about our travel to Manti. He said it is very difficult to get over that mountain. In fact, he and his wife would be traveling to Salina to get home to Mt. Pleasant because of the storm over the mountain. He admitted our travel is very difficult, but the Lord recognizes it is so.
President Sharp - I always love to listen to him. Although the spirit was very strong, as soon as he stood up to talk there wasn't a sound in the place. It was like the spirit doubled. All the members of our stake know he loves us so much and always has so much to tell us. His message was that we need to allow others to repent.
*We must have faith unto repentance, and love unto forgiveness.
*We must begin where we are, but we don't need to stay there.
*It is our duty to love unto forgiveness.
This morning we listened to a broadcast from Salt Lake, with Tad Callister conducting. Here are my notes:
David M. McConkie:
*Don't forget the priesthood - A father learns his duty in a quorum. As a priesthood holder, he needs to be in his quorum meeting, where he learns to be a father. Mothers must be in Relief Society or Primary where they learn to be mothers.
Garth and I remembered when he was in the Stake Sunday School Presidency and we had a General Authority here for conference. During the adult meeting on Saturday night, he spoke about the importance of all three church meetings, but really explained how important each one is. He actually got down on his knees to the left of the podium, leaned against that railing there, pointed to everyone and said "Sunday School is where you study the scriptures. Be there to learn. Priesthood and Relief Society is where you learn to be parents. Be there if you aren't teaching Primary." He said there was no excuse for not being there. He said it so pointed, even told bishops, counselors, clerks, presidencies, that there should be no counting of money, no presidency meetings, no interviews, nothing during Sunday time. Be where you are supposed to be.*The advisary attacks the home - He isn't at church, but in our homes. Don't let him win over our homes.
*Kids need parents who love and teach the gospel.
*Quorums should teach how to teach our children, how to be good parents, and good spouses.
*Don't assume that others know - teach the duties of parents.
*Live so you have the spirit of the Lord with you.
Jean Stevens - General Primary Presidency
*Find ways to make General Conference fun for kids.
*We need to get to higher ground by listening to those who are older and wiser.
*Do not give up if everyone in your family is not holding tight and getting to higher ground. Go and get them.
*She then quoted a scripture (I think it was Isiah 41: 10) the words to How Firm a Foundation...(I always think in songs.)
Tad Callister - Quorum of the Seventy
*Some homes are simply boarding homes - with no relationships
*The Lord can change your hearts toward each other.
*He strengthens marriages.
*Commit to make it work.*There is no other alternative - work together.
*Think of it as the "I" principal. How can "I" be better? Ask your spouse, How can I be better?
*Communicate with a contrite spirit.
*Blame doesn't change - patience, willingness helps.
*No good in winning an argument and losing a marriage.
*Make each other happy.
*Our spouse needs our time. Give it to them.
*Courtship after marriage. But it can happen in the home, not always away from home.
*A husband's willingness to help with household chores shows love.
He really stressed how a husband MUST help out. It is no more HER duty. The home belongs to both.
*Stay out of debt - unnecessary debt to get ahead.
*Speak in kind voices - strengthen the relationship
*Compliment each other.
*Make parenting a joint effort.
*Plan together - family home evenings, schedules for the week, etc.
*Pray together...pray together...pray together
*The Lord can work miracles in our marriages. He wants to be our partner. He wants our marriages to work and WILL help us.
Russell M Nelson - Quorum of the Twelve Apostles
*The Lord has need of each of us.
*Bring every one person back.
*Satan would like you to defile your body.
*We are raising our children in Satan's territory. We must teach our children to overcome it.
*Exercise your own agency. That is the conflict.
*Body and spirit - our choices determine our happiness.*Satan never sleeps. He works at us all the time.
*Consequences - we obey laws because we should. We will be held accountable for obeying God's laws.
*Secret chambers - shun pornography - it is as addictive as meth.
*We should stand for the right to declare our love of Christ.
*If we are on the Lord's side He will be on our side. He will help our children and our children's children. -----I'm going to hold him to this promise! By making sure I am doing what I need to do to show the Lord I am on his side. That is the clue...We have to show that we are on His side.
*We must work to show our worthiness.
As usual, we came away from conference with a stronger determination to do better, work together better, to show the Lord that we want to be worthy of the blessing and promises He was ready for us.
Tuesday, November 1, 2011
Lots of Fun Weekend
Garth and I are still recovering from a weekend of so much fun! We were so excited to have our family together (minus a few now-and-then). We used the Fall Break from school to spend this time with family. It was one of only a few years when we didn't attend any UEA activity. We had arranged to stay at one of our favorite places, the Staybridge hotel in West Valley City, which has the Grins and Fins swimming pool. Barrett and his family also stayed there so we had enough swimming passes for everyone. All of our grandchildren in the same pool at the same time! So fun! We then ordered pizza and bread sticks for the whole family and with permission from the hotel manager, we had the dining area for our dinner. The grandkids were so good and well behaved. Maybe it was because they were so tired from all their swimming! They watched the TV while they ate and played together.
Koy and Kayden watching TV in the hotel dining room while waiting for pizza.
Maxwell, Morgan, and Tyler were anxiously waiting for the food as well.
Grayson was happy with Daddy Dallas holding him.
We got to the park at the perfect time, about 10:00 am. It was beautiful weather and there weren't many people there yet. It was a wonderful day!
Spiderman (aka Maxwell) likes to play the games for candy. Tyler just like the candy!
Lexi loved playing with the two babies. Here she is with Isaac. He is such a fun little guy!
Koy and Kayden watching TV in the hotel dining room while waiting for pizza.
Maxwell, Morgan, and Tyler were anxiously waiting for the food as well.
Grayson was happy with Daddy Dallas holding him.
Aren't these kids so cute!
The next day my children appeased their mother and went to This Is The Place Heritage Park. I've wanted to go here ever since my Great-Great-Grandfather's little cabin in Emery was moved to the park. This turned out to be the perfect time to go. Because it was just before Halloween, the park was ready with Halloween activities. Children were encouraged to wear their costumes and given treats at several of the places in the park.
The kids were excited to get their Halloween costumes on!
Lexi kept Grayson entertained while others were off playing games.
Tyler would walk everywhere as long as Grandpa was holding his hand. Kayden just kept going, encouraging everyone to follow him.
Morgan showed Tyler how to toss into the pumpkins. Tyler had such fun playing with his cousins.
Everyone was waiting to listen to the old witch tell her stories. Nicky loved to play with that little duck.......Isaac.
Listening to the witch tell the story.
It must have been a great story!
We finally found our way to the Emery County Cabin. This cabin was moved from Emery to the park a few years ago. My great-great Grandfather Casper Christensen lived with his family in this cabin. He was called to be a postman in Emery. Casper was the grandfather of my Grandma Olsen.
Here I am with my husband and our 8 grandchildren, descendants of Casper Christensen. This children are six generations away from Casper Christensen. How time changes what we view as 'acceptable.' Casper lived in this small cabin with eight children, just as my eight grandchildren. I can't imagine what that must have been like, but I am sure the family was very thankful for what they had. When the kids started running back to the street to go to the next place, I was a bit overcome with thankfulness for the sacrifice that Casper Christensen and his wife, Maren, for coming to this country from Denmark, living in Minnesota where 4 of his children were born, then moving to Spring City in San Pete County, later to move to Emery County and establish his home here. His daughter, Annie married and lived in Emery, welcoming a daughter, Melva to their family. Melva married Neldon Olsen and moved to Rochester, or 'out on the flat' or the 'blue hill'. Melva and Meldon had a daughter named Nellie Ann, who is my mother. These people shaped my live and are a part of who I am today.
Wednesday, October 19, 2011
I Believe in Prayer
Because I believe that prayers are answered, I continue to pray for blessings to come to my family. I have seen many years of prayers for my family being answered in little small steps the past few months. I see these answers as little steps to a happier future for us. I also know that to receive answers we must work for them. But praying means we have faith, or are developing faith. And faith precedes miracles. If we pray, and then work with all our hearts, we develop faith, which allows miracles to happen.
So we are again praying for blessing to come the way of our son and his family. Barrett was recently diagnoses with Myasthenia gravis. Since the average ago of people with this condition is 60 years old, he really doesn't fit the profile, but then, my son is exceptional and nothing is average for him. He just finished his residency in pediatric medicine and has joined a practice in Logan. He has a young family of three children. His wife wrote a beautiful post explaining more about this situation. Please read her story on her personal blog.
He is scheduled for surgery next week to remove the tumor that is located in his chest. I have faith that everything will be fine as soon as this is removed and that he will be able to return to his family and continue with his medical practice. But prayers are always welcomed and needed. And with prayers, everything is possible.
So we are again praying for blessing to come the way of our son and his family. Barrett was recently diagnoses with Myasthenia gravis. Since the average ago of people with this condition is 60 years old, he really doesn't fit the profile, but then, my son is exceptional and nothing is average for him. He just finished his residency in pediatric medicine and has joined a practice in Logan. He has a young family of three children. His wife wrote a beautiful post explaining more about this situation. Please read her story on her personal blog.
He is scheduled for surgery next week to remove the tumor that is located in his chest. I have faith that everything will be fine as soon as this is removed and that he will be able to return to his family and continue with his medical practice. But prayers are always welcomed and needed. And with prayers, everything is possible.
Thursday, October 13, 2011
Happy Birthday Kayden!
Monday, October 10, 2011
Happy Birthday to Koy!
Wednesday, September 21, 2011
Happy Birthday to Tyler
I had this post all ready to go, then realized it was on my school blog! I had forgotten to log out of that account and into the new one I had to create for my personal use. Silly me! Here it goes again :)
Happy birthday to Tyler!
We are so excited to see the progress Tyler is making. He is learning so much and is so excited about life. What other little boy greets you at the door with "Ohhhh! Hello! I am so glad to see you!" Or "I am so glad you could come!" He is so sincere in his love for others. Tyler did make us sad one day. He wanted to go with Grandpa so he grabbed Grandpa's hand and started walking toward the car. He was so upset when he found out he was not going with Grandpa. He cried and threw a fit like only Tyler can do. You have to laugh at him being so dramatic, but it was also so touching that he loves his Grandpa so much. Tyler, we are so proud of you, and love you so much! Happy birthday, big guy!
Happy birthday to Tyler!
We are so excited to see the progress Tyler is making. He is learning so much and is so excited about life. What other little boy greets you at the door with "Ohhhh! Hello! I am so glad to see you!" Or "I am so glad you could come!" He is so sincere in his love for others. Tyler did make us sad one day. He wanted to go with Grandpa so he grabbed Grandpa's hand and started walking toward the car. He was so upset when he found out he was not going with Grandpa. He cried and threw a fit like only Tyler can do. You have to laugh at him being so dramatic, but it was also so touching that he loves his Grandpa so much. Tyler, we are so proud of you, and love you so much! Happy birthday, big guy!
Thursday, September 15, 2011
Just Thinking
Warning! This ended up being very long. Proceed at your own risk of boredom.
I always seem to be troubled by some things that others might think are silly, childish things. Maybe it is all a lack of faith, but I really don't think so because faith is trust for things not seen that are true, and I really trust that the things I am not 'seeing' are true and that someday I will understand the whys that I question. I go about my days trusting that what I know to be true really is true.
I'm not talking about the 'big' things like "Is the church true?" "Did Joseph Smith really see God and Jesus Christ." I honestly believe that with all my soul. Yes, I know the Book of Mormon was written by ancient prophets, and it was guarded, protected, and carefully buried and watched to come from obscurity in our time to help us understand the importance of Christ in our life. I know all that. My problem lies in myself and I guess you can say my faith in myself.
I know that when a person suffers from depression of any type, the truth is very blurred. I went through a time when I was very depressed and it took many years for me to see that things weren't as bad as I believed them to be. In the meantime my children grew up with me, and my husband, going to church, going to the temple, doing all those things that our society does to keep our faith strong. But I wavered. And I suffered silently. But somehow I overcame it, I guess.
I can't tell you when or how, but I finally climbed out of the dark tunnel and kept going. I didn't see a big light showing me the way, but I wasn't in darkness any more and could at least get out of bed without crying every day. But sometimes the blackness comes back and covers my world for a few days. But I just keep going, knowing that it is just temporary and I can function.
I know I shouldn't think too much about my church callings or I go into that place again. That dark place. I know that people would be happy to never have a church job, never be asked to give a lesson, never be responsible for anything in the church. But one of my questions is, "Why do we congratulate people when they are called to certain positions?" If a church position isn't a sign of confidence in their ability to do the job, or an honor to be bestowed to someone, why do we see so many members pat the newly called person on the back and say their congratulations? Congratulations for what? I just don't understand that. And I know it is because I have had the same calling for 25-30 years, so long that I can't remember when it started. I do know it was when my niece, Chelsie, was in third grade and we changed into our present ward. (I know because that was when I took a few weeks out of teaching to have an operation and Bishop Huntington waited for me to return to school before he set me apart for sitting at the organ, and Chelsie was in my class that year. Fun what things we remember and associate with.)
I know I have talked about it before, but I just don't understand it. We are told to not ask to be released from callings, and I really don't want to be released. I just wonder if this is the only place for me in the church. And it is a good place, don't get me wrong. I love playing the music and I humbly say I know people enjoy my music. I know I feel the music and bear my testimony through it all the time. That is a talent the Lord has blessed me with and one I enjoy sharing. (I just wish my piano at home was tuned so I can play again here at home!) I love being the organist and don't want to change that. But have I grown from it? I don't think so. I can't get up in testimony meeting and say "My family has been so blessed because of my calling." "I have grown so much in this church job." .......
I know people will say that I don't need those challenges, and I should be glad I don't have to do any studying, or worrying about lessons, etc. And, really, I am glad for that. I just need to learn that my growth must come from me, because I want it, not because I have to give a lesson on it. I just wonder about my own self-worth. I hear people go up to the Relief Society teacher and tell them what a good job they did on the lesson, that they learned or felt something wonderful. I'm sure it makes them feel good that they were able to help people feel the spirit. When was the last time someone went up to the organist and told them they felt the spirit through their music? I can only think of one person in the past 30 years (besides my husband) who has commented on listening to the prelude music and feeling the spirit. Heck, most people don't even hear it at all.....
All of this isn't even really what I was going to write about tonight. It just happened to flow from my fingers, so please forgive me for my ramblings, but they are MY thoughts anyway, so I can write what I want. :)
All of this just gives a look into my self-esteem and my wondering why I feel like I don't count in the whole scheme of things. I see so many blessings for my family members, so much strength that they have gained from the trials they have had to endure. I know many of them still have questions about why they are given the trials they have, but I can see so much strength and wisdom in each of them. So I just keep trudging on, trusting in the Lord that it is all good and right. Knowing that He will keep His promises if I will only do what I know I should do. Which brings me to my point of all of this.
I guess I have to say it was an answer to prayers for me, or a revelation, or whatever. I know it is a tender mercy or a divine signature. (Yes, I read that book and loved it!) A friend on Facebook had a link to a blog that looked interesting, so I checked it out. (Thanks, Pat Fairbanks!) I know I can't do it justice here so if you are interested I hope you read it. It is "The Gospel According to Scott." The think I learned is this: Sister Teresa, the wonderful nun who lived in poverty and accepted the calling to teach the people of India, one of the most admirable women on earth, she also wavered and felt left alone by the Savior. She didn't feel the spirit when she thought she should, but she kept on going, knowing that she was doing what was right. She felt she had been deserted and that the Lord had left her to go through her life without him. But she still did what was right, with faith that everything would work out for her good. And then she learned the lesson that she had to learn. But it was really a lesson for me.
She, and I, felt that way so we can understand how the Savior feels when we leave him. When we feel like everything is in doubt, that even the Lord doesn't care about little old us, that was how He felt when he was forced to suffer his great trial all by himself. And He did it just for us. He know how we feel, lonely and unwanted and unloved, because He also felt that way. And he feels that way if we don't try to keep close to Him. Why would I want to step away from Him and make Him feel like He isn't important to me? By simply doing what is right, making the choices that I know I should make, keep on doing what I am supposed to do, "fake it until you make it" as they say. By doing all this, I am showing Him that I will someday be worthy of His care. I shouldn't need people to tell me they feel the spirit through my music. I shouldn't need people to congratulate me for a calling that I don't have. I don't need someone to say they were miraculously inspired to come and visit me, or call me, or sit by me in church. I just need to know that He cares, even when I feel He doesn't. Someday I will feel it.
Someday I will. And until then, I'll keep going to church, going to the temple, paying my tithing, going to all three meetings each Sunday, doing my genealogy and Family Search Indexing, reading my scriptures, taking meals to people who need help, cleaning the church when it is our turn, and yes, playing the organ. By doing this and so much more, I am showing the Lord I will be there for him, that He isn't alone because I will be there. And I know that in the long-run, He will give me the blessings I was promised.
I always seem to be troubled by some things that others might think are silly, childish things. Maybe it is all a lack of faith, but I really don't think so because faith is trust for things not seen that are true, and I really trust that the things I am not 'seeing' are true and that someday I will understand the whys that I question. I go about my days trusting that what I know to be true really is true.
I'm not talking about the 'big' things like "Is the church true?" "Did Joseph Smith really see God and Jesus Christ." I honestly believe that with all my soul. Yes, I know the Book of Mormon was written by ancient prophets, and it was guarded, protected, and carefully buried and watched to come from obscurity in our time to help us understand the importance of Christ in our life. I know all that. My problem lies in myself and I guess you can say my faith in myself.
I know that when a person suffers from depression of any type, the truth is very blurred. I went through a time when I was very depressed and it took many years for me to see that things weren't as bad as I believed them to be. In the meantime my children grew up with me, and my husband, going to church, going to the temple, doing all those things that our society does to keep our faith strong. But I wavered. And I suffered silently. But somehow I overcame it, I guess.
I can't tell you when or how, but I finally climbed out of the dark tunnel and kept going. I didn't see a big light showing me the way, but I wasn't in darkness any more and could at least get out of bed without crying every day. But sometimes the blackness comes back and covers my world for a few days. But I just keep going, knowing that it is just temporary and I can function.
I know I shouldn't think too much about my church callings or I go into that place again. That dark place. I know that people would be happy to never have a church job, never be asked to give a lesson, never be responsible for anything in the church. But one of my questions is, "Why do we congratulate people when they are called to certain positions?" If a church position isn't a sign of confidence in their ability to do the job, or an honor to be bestowed to someone, why do we see so many members pat the newly called person on the back and say their congratulations? Congratulations for what? I just don't understand that. And I know it is because I have had the same calling for 25-30 years, so long that I can't remember when it started. I do know it was when my niece, Chelsie, was in third grade and we changed into our present ward. (I know because that was when I took a few weeks out of teaching to have an operation and Bishop Huntington waited for me to return to school before he set me apart for sitting at the organ, and Chelsie was in my class that year. Fun what things we remember and associate with.)
I know I have talked about it before, but I just don't understand it. We are told to not ask to be released from callings, and I really don't want to be released. I just wonder if this is the only place for me in the church. And it is a good place, don't get me wrong. I love playing the music and I humbly say I know people enjoy my music. I know I feel the music and bear my testimony through it all the time. That is a talent the Lord has blessed me with and one I enjoy sharing. (I just wish my piano at home was tuned so I can play again here at home!) I love being the organist and don't want to change that. But have I grown from it? I don't think so. I can't get up in testimony meeting and say "My family has been so blessed because of my calling." "I have grown so much in this church job." .......
I know people will say that I don't need those challenges, and I should be glad I don't have to do any studying, or worrying about lessons, etc. And, really, I am glad for that. I just need to learn that my growth must come from me, because I want it, not because I have to give a lesson on it. I just wonder about my own self-worth. I hear people go up to the Relief Society teacher and tell them what a good job they did on the lesson, that they learned or felt something wonderful. I'm sure it makes them feel good that they were able to help people feel the spirit. When was the last time someone went up to the organist and told them they felt the spirit through their music? I can only think of one person in the past 30 years (besides my husband) who has commented on listening to the prelude music and feeling the spirit. Heck, most people don't even hear it at all.....
All of this isn't even really what I was going to write about tonight. It just happened to flow from my fingers, so please forgive me for my ramblings, but they are MY thoughts anyway, so I can write what I want. :)
All of this just gives a look into my self-esteem and my wondering why I feel like I don't count in the whole scheme of things. I see so many blessings for my family members, so much strength that they have gained from the trials they have had to endure. I know many of them still have questions about why they are given the trials they have, but I can see so much strength and wisdom in each of them. So I just keep trudging on, trusting in the Lord that it is all good and right. Knowing that He will keep His promises if I will only do what I know I should do. Which brings me to my point of all of this.
I guess I have to say it was an answer to prayers for me, or a revelation, or whatever. I know it is a tender mercy or a divine signature. (Yes, I read that book and loved it!) A friend on Facebook had a link to a blog that looked interesting, so I checked it out. (Thanks, Pat Fairbanks!) I know I can't do it justice here so if you are interested I hope you read it. It is "The Gospel According to Scott." The think I learned is this: Sister Teresa, the wonderful nun who lived in poverty and accepted the calling to teach the people of India, one of the most admirable women on earth, she also wavered and felt left alone by the Savior. She didn't feel the spirit when she thought she should, but she kept on going, knowing that she was doing what was right. She felt she had been deserted and that the Lord had left her to go through her life without him. But she still did what was right, with faith that everything would work out for her good. And then she learned the lesson that she had to learn. But it was really a lesson for me.
She, and I, felt that way so we can understand how the Savior feels when we leave him. When we feel like everything is in doubt, that even the Lord doesn't care about little old us, that was how He felt when he was forced to suffer his great trial all by himself. And He did it just for us. He know how we feel, lonely and unwanted and unloved, because He also felt that way. And he feels that way if we don't try to keep close to Him. Why would I want to step away from Him and make Him feel like He isn't important to me? By simply doing what is right, making the choices that I know I should make, keep on doing what I am supposed to do, "fake it until you make it" as they say. By doing all this, I am showing Him that I will someday be worthy of His care. I shouldn't need people to tell me they feel the spirit through my music. I shouldn't need people to congratulate me for a calling that I don't have. I don't need someone to say they were miraculously inspired to come and visit me, or call me, or sit by me in church. I just need to know that He cares, even when I feel He doesn't. Someday I will feel it.
Someday I will. And until then, I'll keep going to church, going to the temple, paying my tithing, going to all three meetings each Sunday, doing my genealogy and Family Search Indexing, reading my scriptures, taking meals to people who need help, cleaning the church when it is our turn, and yes, playing the organ. By doing this and so much more, I am showing the Lord I will be there for him, that He isn't alone because I will be there. And I know that in the long-run, He will give me the blessings I was promised.